Giving up resistance.
In conversation with someone this week they said losing weight was a simple formula. “Eat less, move more.” Maybe for some. But not for those who carry emotional weight, it isn’t lost by eating less.
My life long struggle with weight (and my body) began at the age of nine years old. I was an average sized kid. Maybe a little bigger than the shorter, smaller boned girls, but I was nowhere close to being overweight or having a struggle with food.
This one day I followed my model for self-hate into an office building. Nervous, unsure, and no idea where I was being taken. Signs on the wall said “hypnosis”. Feeling confused, a creepy old man led us into a small office. There were two green, puffy recliners on the left facing a huge blank white wall. It was a narrow, tight room – like a walk in closet. At least it felt that way.
I walked by him to my designated recliner. As I passed by him I had no idea what to do with the creepy energy I felt from him. He looked me up and down and said to this spunky pig-tailed girl “she’d be cute if she lost a few pounds.”
Bam. There it was. It’s like this automatic processing system his words went through in my mind. Through my heart. Through my soul. Out the other side came “there is something wrong with you”.
This began the cycle of a buried belief I wanted no one to ever find out about me. I stuffed it down with food. I tried to release it through fad diets (including pills with who-knows-what in them), starvation, and extreme exercise. Binge eating, drinking, dieting, and exercise was my cycle. All to numb that painful belief. Something is wrong with me. My cycle of survival worked. I’d lose weight. But, I’d soon find it again. Sometimes I’d find more weight than I lost.
It was an emotional and physical roller coaster I was on for the many years that followed that one day. The damage to my body wasn’t to the depths of what it did to my emotional well-being. On the journey to finally releasing and keeping off 100 pounds it was healing the emotions, that buried belief, and giving space to the feelings I’d stuffed for so long. That is what sustained the release of all that weight. Not because I ate less or exercised more.
So, I know, I really know losing weight is not a simple formula. It’s quite complicated with a painful buried belief about yourself. It’s complicated when you’ve learned food is a source of comfort. It’s complicated when you don’t have a model for self-love or self-acceptance.
In these few days I’ve spent in LA I’ve been really observant of the level of self-acceptance of my physical being. My body isn't perfect. It holds scars of my weight loss and weight gain journey. But, it certainly feels much lighter on my emotional well being. I accept exactly where I am right now and grateful to be healthier than I’ve ever been – on all levels. In 33 years, I’ve come a long way, baby.
Here's my formula - Radical Self-Love + Radical Self-Acceptance = happiness, health, and a bad ass beautiful life.
Fall is one of my favorite Seasons and Pumpkin is absolutely one of my favorite flavors. I love it in coffee, cupcakes, (anything!) and I just found this smoothie recipe that is decadent. Pumpkin is full of great vitamins and this recipe is low in sugar. Enjoy!
Pumpkin Spice Smoothie
1/2 banana (as bananas start to brown I peel them and throw them in the freezer for recipes like this)
1/3 cup of pumpkin puree
1 cup of unsweetened vanilla almond milk
1/2 tsp of pure vanilla extract
a few shakes of pumpkin spice seasoning
4-5 ice cubes
Blend until smooth and drink slowly (so hard to not drink the whole thing in one sip!)
A good, happy life is about having balance.
I've never done well with deprivation - tell me I can't do or have something and that is exactly what I'll do/go after! I'm especially referring to food. When I was a yo-yo dieter and had to deprive myself, whatever I took out was all I could think about. It could drive a person insane!
Now I've changed my relationship with food and how I feel about it and my view of it. I enjoy it. I no longer consider any food "bad". If I've taken anything out of my "diet" that's bad, it's guilt. I no longer beat myself up for any food I eat. Really, how enjoyable is anything if followed up with a dose of guilt and remorse? And imagine what those feelings do to the digestion process!
I'm not a food natzi, but I ensure I have good balance in my food choices. Smoothies are simple, delicious, nutritious, and easy to clean up after!
I'm often asked what I put in my smoothies. One of my favorites is the Cilantro Smoothie (recipe on the blog). I've asked my friends to share their favorites - here's what they shared:
Free radicals are everywhere - in the water we drink, food we eat, and in the air we breathe. Free radicals cause aging and disease. The main defense to free radicals (coming from pollution, x-rays, radiation, chemicals, heavy metals) are antioxidants.
Cilantro leaves are rich in calcium, iron, carotenes, and vitamin C, which happen to be great antioxidants. Cilantro has been effectively used to help remove heavy metals and toxins from the body. Reuters reports that cilantro contains a chemical which has been found to kill the Salmonella bacteria that cause foodborne illness.
The heavy metal detox capabilities of cilantro should also make it of great use in the treatment of depression, Alzheimer's disease, lack of concentration and other related disorders. In other words, this herb can apparently help to keep you happy, focused, and sane!
Here's a recipe I really enjoy:
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Throughout my life I was on a rollercoaster of weight loss and weight gain. I did all the "fad" diets, took pills, starved myself - you name it, I did it. I'd lose 20 pounds and gain back 30, lose 15 and gain back 20. Not only was it damaging to my body and organs, it took a hit to my psyche. It was stressful and depressing to do all that hard work only to go beyond where I started.
It doesn't have to be that way! I've lost and kept off 100 pounds. It wasn't on any special diet program or simple pill. I did it by taking responsibility for my life, what I was doing with it, and who was in it. I made me a priority. I honored this vessel I call my body by making better food choices, moving it more, and giving it what it was really craving.
In my training for Holistic Health Counseling we were taught about Primary and Secondary foods. Primary foods being relationships, career, finances, exercise, hobbies, and more. Secondary foods are actually what you eat.
I didn't know it at the time, but I made Primary Foods my priority. I let go of the stress I was putting on my mind and body. Stress causes cortisol levels to rise. Cortisol increases the fat around your belly area. I released and let go of relationships that weren't mutually beneficial. I took care of me. And a really big part of that process was consciously releasing stress from my body. I meditated. I breathed more deeply. I envisioned the body I wanted for myself rather than focusing on what was wrong with it. I changed the way I thought about food. I chose to be happy.
If I ate cake, I enjoyed it. Your body will react to what you say to and about it. Enjoy your food!
This article I found online on Oprah.com ignited me to share a little more about my story and my journey of losing 100 pounds, ending the yo yo dieting, and finally being at peace with my body and my life.
Here is a video I participated in when I was in school. It explains a little more of what a Holistic Health Counselor can help you do for your life. As with all my personal healing work and journey I've taken what I've learned educationally, experientially, and through life experience and bring that to my clients and help them empower themselves to living their best life yet!